If your family is stepping away from traditional schooling, you’re not alone. Starting something new can be both freeing and uncertain. But the early days can feel disorienting. Maybe your child keeps asking, “What time is recess?” Or maybe you’re second-guessing whether it’s okay to have a slow morning without a set schedule.
You might have come across the term “deschooling,” which refers to a phase that many families experience as they adjust to life outside the classroom. While not every family uses this term or follows the concept closely, understanding it can offer helpful insights during your transition.
Gentle Transition Tips for the First Few Weeks
Every family’s journey is different, but many find it helpful to take a gradual approach to new routines. While it’s important to let the day unfold naturally, adding light structure—like a shared breakfast, time outdoors, or quiet reading can create a helpful rhythm without the formality of a bell schedule. Here are a few tips to help ease the transition:
1. Loosen the Schedule (for now)
You don’t need to recreate school at home. Let your days unfold naturally. Watch how your child chooses to spend their time. This gives insight into their interests, energy cycles, and natural learning styles. LearningHub’s platform is designed to adapt to your child’s interests and pace, so when you’re ready to bring in a few lessons, you can build around them, not a schedule.
2. Follow Curiosity, Not Curriculum
Did they ask 10 questions about frogs at breakfast? That’s a lesson! Go to the library. Watch a documentary. Explore together. With LearningHub, you can easily search our massive library of lessons by topic, interest, or subject, so when curiosity sparks, you have everything you need at your fingertips.
3. Talk. A Lot.
Deschooling is as much about reconnecting as it is about decompressing. Ask how they felt about school. What did they love? What did they dread? These conversations can guide your future home education path.
4. Resist the Urge to Measure
There’s no quiz at the end of deschooling. You may not see progress for a while, and that’s okay. This time is about healing, not achieving. When you’re ready, LearningHub offers lessons without pressure, no grades, no rigid pacing, just rich content you can use however it fits your family.
5. Decompress Together
This is your deschooling, too. You might still feel the pressure to be productive, to have proof that you’re “doing it right.” Let yourself off the hook. Take walks. Make popcorn for lunch. Let joy be your guide.
How You’ll Know It’s Working
You might notice your child:
- Stops asking what subject is next
- Explores something for hours without prompting
- Sleeps better, laughs more, and seems more relaxed
- Starts asking their own questions again
These are signs of recovery and of readiness to start learning on their own terms.
Want a peek into what this looks like over time? Check out this real-life deschooling timeline shared by a long-time homeschooler.
From Bell Schedules to a New Balance
Leaving the traditional school system involves more than changing where learning happens. It’s emotional, relational, and deeply personal. Whether or not you embrace the term “deschooling,” giving your family time to reflect, rest, and reconnect can help set the stage for meaningful learning ahead.
So go ahead and ditch the schedule. Cuddle up with a stack of picture books. Spend a morning digging in the dirt. That’s not “falling behind.” That’s moving forward, together.
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References
Raising Lifelong Learners. (n.d.). What Exactly is Deschooling.. and Do I Need to Do It? Retrieved from https://raisinglifelonglearners.com/deschooling/
Unschooling Mom2Mom. (n.d.). 10 tips to help you deschool. Retrieved from https://www.unschoolingmom2mom.com/10-tips-to-help-you-deschool
The Wild Schooler. (n.d.). What is deschooling? Retrieved from https://thewildschooler.com/what-is-deschooling/
